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It’s Friday! Cheers!! {How Does She Do it All? She Doesn’t.}


posted: 04/12/13

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It’s Friday! Cheers!!
Are you as excited about the weekend as I am? I have a date night with Nathan planned, some quality time with friends that I don’t get to see nearly enough, and some quality family time planned too!
So lately I have been getting this question a lot, from other bloggers and from good friends, who wonder how I can possibly do all the things I do. Aside from being a blogger (and wanting to turn that into a business so I can be at home and help financially support our family), I also own an Etsy shop (Hummingbird’s View), contribute at some other great blogs (Chef in Training and Bon Bon Break), and I’m in the process of redesigning blogs for two friends (Lemon Tree Dwelling and Vegan Mother Hubbard . . . posts all about that coming soon!)
And besides all that there’s my actual full time job, being a stay at home mom!
How do I do it all? Let me let you in on a little secret . . . .

I think the idea that women can “have it all” (the career, the kids, the perfect marriage, the perfectly clean house, etc.) is bunk. Total bunk.
(Also, as I am doing this post, I am working on an Etsy order, making coffee, and standing up in my kitchen so that when Quinn walks through in about five seconds and asks for a snack, I’m ready to grab it.)
Here’s my biggest and dirtiest secret. And by dirty, I mean filthy, and by filthy I mean put on your HAZMAT suits people.
My house is a disaster.
Dishes in the sink (kitchen)
A plethora of Easter Bunnies (dinning room)
Chocolate drippings for a post to come (kitchen)
Laundry that has been waiting forever to be folded (laundry room, “aka junk room”)
A dinosaur stuck in the window pane for several days (family room)
Wipes Quinn pulled out four days ago (living room)
More dishes in the sink (bathroom . . just kidding, kitchen)
Mr. Potato Head’s arm, half of a plastic stacking ball, the end of the Trick A Ma Stick (kitchen)
Food magazines (one pile of many)  (dinning room)
A wreath that just won’t get it together and get made  (dinning room)
Little People taking a nap by our bathroom door  (hallway)

And to put your minds at ease, the kids are fed (relatively) healthy food, the house isn’t unsanitary, and we are a very happy family.

My other little secret?

My husband.

He is crazy supportive of this dream of mine to be a blogger/Etsy shop owner/Super Star. Especially in the last few weeks as things have picked up for me, he has really helped make it easier for me to get things done. Like Saturday mornings at Starbucks, taking the kids to run errands for me, and not complaining when I’m glued to the computer at night.

And not mentioning when you can’t really see the countertops in our kitchen.

So what do you think? Can women “have it all?”

Want to see the things I did this week instead of cleaning?

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(It took me about an hour to write this relatively simple post because in the midst of it I, changed a diaper, cleaned up spilled milk, and read some stories. 
And poured some of that coffee I was making.)

Hi! I'm Lisa Longley, and I am committed to giving you simple dinner ideas and recipes that are easy to make; recipes that will fill your home with joy. I am the owner and author of SimpleJoy.com and I'm so glad that you are here.

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  1. Tara @ Suburble says

    Lisa – thank you for your honest snapshot of your life. I can’t imagine how you do it all – posting, and then guest posting, and then running your own Etsy shop!??!

    Still, I think you’re doing a fantastic job (the mess isn’t THAT bad!). And kudos to your hubby for being so supportive. It really makes a difference to have someone in your corner, doesn’t it?

    Have a lovely weekend! Put your feet up and half a glass of wine with that man of yours! :)

    • Tara @ Suburble says

      I meant “have” a glass of wine, not “half”. Please, fill it all the way up. :)

    • Lisa Longley says

      LOL! Tara, you crack me up :) And don’t worry, I never skimp on the wine :)

  2. Rachel Willis says

    I absolutely believe women can HAVE it all. They just can’t DO it all. We could have someone watch our kids, clean our homes and prepare all our meals, but that just wouldn’t be the same, now, would it? You are so blessed to have a supportive husband, Lisa. And it’s good to know that my house isn’t the only messy one in blogland! CHEERS! {that’s me, lifting a glass to you}

    • Lisa Longley says

      Such a good point. Having it all is not the same as doing it all. Thanks Rachel!!

  3. Sarah JM says

    Oh…thank you for this post. My house teeter totters between a dump and model home (okay, model home was generous of me)! Moving and showing the house for my landlord has consumed all of my free time, and sadly my blog I love so much has been neglected. I can’t wait to move and find balance again and get my hands and ideas back into blogging. Cheers to all of your successes these past few months – there’s a reason so many people are drawn to the beautiful work you do! I enjoy your humor and honesty :) Happy weekend!

    • Lisa Longley says

      Awwww, Sarah. You always give me warm fuzzies :)

  4. Julie Evink says

    Oh I love this post as I sit at my kitchen table that I cleared away the Scentsy orders, presents that are ready for peeps, blog props enough to set my computer on. I look around and see toys, boxes. dishes etc. all over the place. It’s ok. I’m happy, the kid is happy, the hubby’s happy and we are busy well rounded family. Do I have it all going on? Nah, but together we have it all :)

    • Lisa Longley says

      Love this comment Julie :)

  5. Shanna Schad says

    Uhhhhh this is like looking at my house and reading about me!! Or pretty much any mom blogger!! I love it. DO we NEED clean houses? Probably not. I don’t even have an etsy store and I am just as busy with an equally supportive husband. We are lucky ladies to have such great husbands! Love that you posted this!!

    • Lisa Longley says

      Thanks Shanna!!! I love love LOVE all the comments of people being able to relate. I think we moms are hard on ourselves naturally, and we bloggers tend to be a little type a perfectionist. That combo is a little unruly :)

  6. Andi Gleeson says

    I love this post! It’s hard enough to keep a house clean with kids around, but add in blogging and it’s nearly impossible! Thanks for letting us in on your messes. It makes me feel better about mine!

  7. Dorothy @ Crazy for Crust says

    They talked about this at the conference this weekend. It’s truly a dirty secret – we can’t have it all unless we like things half-assed. I’m really good at something…when I’m doing it. So, if I’m blogging I’m great at that but I’m a crappy mom. So I need to learn to segment more – put on my blogging hat, be a blogger. Put on my mommy-hat, put away the phone. It’s a work in progress. :) And my house is a mess too. My husband agreed we needed a housecleaner once a month. Best. Thing. EVER. And sometimes? She calls to schedule and I realize I’ve only vacuumed once since she came the month before.

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